Thursday, December 18, 2014

#MFRWorg Newbie's World: Why NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS Won't Work @ErinMoore

Why Your New Year’s Resolutions Won’t Work
A new year is often a time for new beginnings, a refresh of our priorities and our goals.  We often accompany this time of reflection with a wave of resolutions: I will write 4,000 words per day, I will do two blogs posts per week, I will wake up at 5 am every day in order to market my books. 
But how many of those resolutions do we actually follow through with for the entire year? How many do we keep for longer than a month? Probably not many. Pretty soon, we start slipping back into our old ways. We start hitting the snooze button or saying “not today.”

Resolutions are doomed to fail.
Here’s what I want you to get from this blog, though: that’s normal. In fact, it’s so normal that most psychologists and therapists encourage us not to make resolutions for this very reason: not only do we put added pressure on ourselves, but when we (inevitably) fall into our old patterns, we now also have the guilt of a promise broken.

I found this explanation from Carl Buckheit very illuminating:
The main reason they don’t work for most of us most of the time is because the New Year’s resolution operates by imagining a different future and then putting that future into conflict with the version of us who is doing the imagining in the present. In other words, as soon as we make a New Year’s resolution we have at least two of us there: the one in the future behaving differently and theoretically behaving better, behaving more responsibly, whatever it might be; and we have the present person who is imagining that better future. We have a problem; we have a conflict. 

We have attempted to ally ourselves with the future self against the present self.

What he’s saying is that we need to respect who we already are, and know that what we did in the past was not wrong (or bad). We are simply going to re-align, not change our entire person.
So change is possible! If you do it the right way, you can make all of your marketing goals come true.

Here are some tips:
1.       Little by little is the easiest way to make changes. Just like you can’t lose all twenty pounds in one day, you also cannot write an entire book or complete an entire marketing plan in a few days. Know that each step on the journey takes you closer to being that amazing writer and marketer you want to be.
2.       Make your goals easier on yourself. You are not going to be able to go from zero to sixty, but if you go from zero to five…then that seems more doable for both you and your brain to accept. So maybe “get 50 reviews” is easier to achieve if you think “ask/follow up on one review per week”.
3.       Realize that a little bit is better than nothing. Even if you can only write or market for ten minutes, it is better than not doing anything at all. All of those little ten minute increments during the week add up!  (One trick is to use a timer for a ten or twenty minute sprint.)
4.       Consider putting more energy into your mental state than into actual “doing” something. Affirmations, meditation, and envisioning your dreams can all help you to feel good about everything you do.

So go ahead, tear up that sheet of resolutions. Instead, make one small change this week that is easy and sustainable. And then next week, make one more.

What do you think? How have you brought about changes in your own life?

Friday, November 28, 2014

The Business of Writing: Finding the Perfect Publisher



So now that we’ve talked about formatting for a publisher let’s talk a little about how to find one. The first thing you need to look at is what you are writing. Not every publisher takes all styles. If you are writing YA you sure don’t want to send your ms into an Erotic publisher.

Talk to other authors. Find out who they publish with, especially if they write the same genre as you. If you can, go to conferences or join a local group and meet other authors as well as publishers. Join loops like MFRW. Network with the people who have done the self-publishing, published with electronic houses and the brick and mortar. Find the one that works best for you.

Writing Tip:

Do your research. All publishers have their guidelines on their websites. Some will want your full ms, some will only want a partial and some might only want a cover letter. Make sure all three of these things plus your synopsis is as polished as possible.

Bio:
Barbara Donlon Bradley wears many hats. She’s a mother, wife, care-giver, author, and editor. She’s a senior editor for Melange Books, and writes for Phaze and Melange books/Satin Romances with over twenty titles under her belt.

Barb's Links: 

Thursday, November 20, 2014

#MFRWauthor @VictoriaPinder owes thanks to #NaNoWriMo

MFRW Author Victoria Pinder talks about her NaNo Experience.


It probably kickstarted my change of career to take the craft more seriously. I owe my thanks to Nanowrimo in helping me take the control back. I finished the first three book series, and I couldn’t sell them. I had more than three hundred rejections. I had no idea what to do. No one wanted what I thought was my masterpiece. I was disheartened.

Then someone told me November is Nanowrimo. It perked me up. I had already written a few books, so I had confidence in my ability to write a book. Nanowrimo is like writing on crack though. It’s fast paced. Intense. And I have done it every year, except last. The now husband asked me to marry him in October and wedding thoughts took over my life. The wedding is over now. He’s been warned already. This month, Nanowrimo, is the goal again.

Since completing Nanowrimo, I self published one book, Mything You. Empowered I charged ahead with my writing and I sold five more novels to publishers since. Now I have an agent. She wants changes in the book and sequel. I’m currently writing this.

None of this would be possible.

To me, the best part of Nanowrimo is that I’ve sold a book I wrote during the pressure to a publishing house. Chaperoning Paris was the story that I had to dig deep with. The characters had flaws and issues I’ve never experienced, but my heart could empathize. It was my first Nanowrimo book. I wrote the first draft in the month. I was so happy. I also had no idea how awful of a writer that made me.

I fixed it numerous times. I sold it to my publisher and they had a major storyline change for me as well. It was a lot of work, but it was a work of love.

A lot of the editing for the publishing house was done as I was planning that wedding last year. My mind was on a million things, but despite the pressures, I realized I can succeed. It’s what I love about the insanity of writing that much in a month. Victory tastes sweet at the end of the road. It’s a controllable goal that can be met. I’ve done it. Anyone with desire and commitment can too.

So if someone is out to conquer Nanowrimo, you can. I have. And if you live in Miami, perhaps I’ll see you at one of the events.

About The Author
Victoria Pinder grew up in Irish Catholic Boston then moved to Miami. Eventually, found that writing is her passion.

She always wrote stories to entertain herself. Her parents are practical minded people demanding a job, but when she sat down to see what she enjoyed doing, writing became obvious.

The Zoastra Affair, Chaperoning Paris, Borrowing the Doctor, and Electing Love, Mything the Throne and Favorite Coffee, Favorite Crush will be published in 2014.

Now she is represented by Dawn Dowdle of Blue Ridge Literary Agency. Also she’s the Vice President for the Florida Romance Writers. Her website is www.victoriapinder.com.

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

MFRW Monthly Quote - November 2014 #MFRWAuthor #Quotes

"When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in service to my vision, it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid."
-Audré Lord









Emerald
Emerald is an erotic fiction author whose short stories have been featured or are forthcoming in anthologies published by Cleis Press, Mischief, Logical-Lust, and Sweetmeats Press. She serves as an assistant newsletter editor and Facebook group moderator for Marketing for Romance Writers (MFRW), and she selects and posts the monthly inspirational quote on the MFRW Marketing Blog. Her first solo books, If... Then: a collection of erotic romance stories and Safe: a collection of erotic stories, are out now from 1001 Nights Press. Find her online at her website, The Green Light District.

Sunday, November 9, 2014

Hey #MFRWauthor! ADD an Author App to your #facebook Page @AuthorTinaGayle


Get Your FACEBOOK AUTHOR APP.
If you have a Fan Page on Facebook, you might want to look into adding an Author App to it that will allow people to purchase your books from Amazon.


All you have to do is enter your ASIN or ISBN number and the app will set up the link.

The link is display on the left hand side in Red (Read my Book). It will also allow you to put in a URL to a free sample of your book.

Here is mine!

If you have already set up your fan page, go to http://apps.facebook.com/authorapp/

A page will come up that says 'The Author Marketing App.' Just click on the  'Let's get started' button.

From there it will direct you as to what you need to do to set up the page.

Remember to choose your fan page, not your personal page. You will then see the ""Read My Book"" button on your fan page.

Now just click on the app and you just enter the information about your books.

You can do this one of two ways
1. just put in the isbn or asin number and hit enter.
2. Or fill in the information yourself.

If after you hit enter, you don't see everything you want it to display, just hit edit book and put in the additional information.

Hope this helps, 
Tina Gayle

ABOUT Tina Gayle
Tina grew up a dreamer and loves escaping into a good romantic book. She is currently working on two different series the Executive Wives’ Club and the Family Tree series both combine elements of women fiction with the passion of romance. Read the 1st chapter of any of her books on her website.
Website  |  Blog  |  Twitter

Tina Gayle recently released Stormy, an Erotic Contemporary Romance.

Can friends become lovers? Even after the age of forty?

For two years, Daniel and Karen have consoled each other during the trails of losing their spouses. Now, they are ready to turn their friendship into a loving relationship. After sharing a night of passion, all appears golden for a bright future for Karen and Daniel until she receives a call from her children saying her ex has had a heart attack.

Torn between, her need to support her children and her desire to be with Daniel, Karen leaves him and flees to the hospital. Coming face to face with  her ex-husband’s new trophy wife, Karen begins to question exactly why her marriage fell apart. Was she to blame, and if so, should she try again?
On the outside looking in, Daniel must now convince Karen to let go of her past mistake and share a future with him?